Really apreciate this framing. The line about mistaking persistence for virtue cuts deep because it names something most people won't admit, that staying can be its own kind of slow erasure. The cold chair metaphor works too, that delayed awareness of discomfort that only becomes obvious in retrospect. Been there with a mentorship that felt off but I kept showing up because leaving felt like failur.
Mentorships can blur the line between endurance and erosion because they’re framed as formative by design. When the discomfort only becomes clear in hindsight, it often means the system adapted longer than it should have.
Really apreciate this framing. The line about mistaking persistence for virtue cuts deep because it names something most people won't admit, that staying can be its own kind of slow erasure. The cold chair metaphor works too, that delayed awareness of discomfort that only becomes obvious in retrospect. Been there with a mentorship that felt off but I kept showing up because leaving felt like failur.
Mentorships can blur the line between endurance and erosion because they’re framed as formative by design. When the discomfort only becomes clear in hindsight, it often means the system adapted longer than it should have.